Be the AMAZING person you are. Develop into the AMAZING person you want to be.
Fitting In vs. Belonging
We are a tight knit dojo family. We believe that merely “fitting in” is the greatest barrier to belonging. A quote from Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown, sums it up perfectly: “Belonging is being somewhere where you want to be, and they want you. Fitting in is being somewhere where you really want to be, but they don’t care one way or the other. Belonging is being accepted for you. Fitting in is being accepted for being like everyone else. I get to be me if I belong. I have to be like you to fit in.”
At San Tan Aikido, you matter. You are noticed and acknowledged. You are lovable and you are loved. (Yes, we just said lovable and loved.) We don’t require you to change who you are, or become “one of us” to belong. Rather, belonging at San Tan Aikido simply means: BE the amazing person you already are, and develop into the more amazing person YOU want to be. That is our Purpose. We BELIEVE in YOU! (Sometimes more than you believe in yourself…)
Our Training Mindset
Our dojo is our training ground, our safe and sacred space. Physical, mental, emotional and spiritual safety are the cornerstones of our dojo culture. Here, there is no need or tolerance for put downs, making fun of someone’s mistakes, or making others feel small so we can feel big. In fact, quite the opposite. We acknowledge and applaud each other’s efforts and successes, actively seek ways to build each other up, and work hard to bring out the best in each other. Within this safe and sacred space, we train “for real”. As we increasingly prove ourselves in our martial arts process, we develop the quiet confidence that doesn’t require us to shout out how great we are. Our presence is our proof.
Significant growth requires stretching our boundaries, making mistakes and “failing” over and over again. However, most people have been conditioned to avoid failure at all costs. Not here! Here, we frame mistakes as learning experiences, view correction as a guide, and celebrate struggles as a necessary part of progress.
As we devote time, energy and sweat to the martial aspect of Aikido, we are accepting the invitation to sculpt our body, mind and spirit into revealing the beautiful, Divine work of art of who we are, then purifying and polishing ourselves into who we want to be.
Finally, we believe that we learn and retain most effectively when we are having fun! We take our training very seriously, and ourselves very lightly. You’ll enjoy lots of laughter and camaraderie on and off the mat.
Our Core Values
- Our dojo is a safe, vibrant, and compassionate community
- All dojo family members share responsibility to bring out the best in ourselves, each other, and our community at large
- Our Aikido self-defense MUST be validated against real attacks
- We are entitled to NOTHING
- EVERYTHING is a gift, and we are GRATEFUL for every gift
- We GENEROUSLY give from our abundance
- Insatiably we seek the “why”, our curiosity growing with each discovery
- Courageously we experiment, and let go of the unreliable and irrelevant
- Relentlessly we evolve, improve and become more relevant
PROGRESSIVE POTENTIAL ACTUALIZATION™ (Our Training System)
- We gratefully accept any attack or conflict as an opportunity to understand others and ourselves
- We gratefully grow and develop ourselves through our response to conflict
- We become progressively more attuned to ourselves, the people around us, and our environment
- By attuned, we mean aware of our emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual states
- Now that we are attuned to ourselves and our partner, we harmonize and blend our energies into one. This is the “Aiki” part of Aikido.
- Now that we have harmonized the energy, we redirect the energy into the most resonant, beneficial outcome for all parties.
- After each experience, it’s important for us to evaluate what we did well and what we could have done better.
- During this process, it’s important to remove judgment from the process. Words like “good”, “bad”, and “sucked” are counterproductive to correction and development. Words like “smooth”, “rough”, “choppy” are more accurate and more helpful to progress and improvement.
- Understand that struggle is part of the process for progress.
Apply to Daily Life
- We consciously and deliberately apply the system, principles and lessons to our lives off the mat.
- Surprisingly, we find that this kind of applied cross-pollination accelerates our understanding and progress on the mat.
- We also find that this kind of applied cross-pollination increases self-confidence in other areas of our lives.
Rinse and Repeat
Now go do it all over again…and ENJOY!
- Fitness & Flexibility
- Mutual Respect
- Harmonious relationship skills
- A dojo family passionately committed to bringing out your very best!
WE’RE NOT A GOOD FIT, IF…
- You want to learn how to attack other people
- You want a hard, combative style of martial arts (MMA, etc.)
- You’re OK with the risk of more serious injuries (broken bones, blown out knees, etc.)
- You prefer a competitive training environment and feel better in a win-lose setting.
- You want to get your black belt in 2-3 years, and then want to move on to get your black belt in a different martial art.
- You’re a superbly conditioned and talented athlete, and want a martial art that ONLY challenges and rewards the elite.
- It’s always about the end result, the next rank, perfecting a technique and moving on.
- You enjoy proving how good you are, and how superior you are to others.
- You prefer dominance when faced with conflict, sometimes crushing the spirit of the offender.
WE ARE A GOOD FIT, IF…
- You want to learn how to defend yourself, and have no desire to attack others.
- You want a softer, more fluid, yet still effective martial art.
- You’re OK with the risk of less serious injuries (strains, sprains, etc.)
- You prefer a collaborative training environment that fosters a win-win mentality. You’d like to bring out the best in yourself, your training partners.
- You’re OK if it takes 4-5 years to earn your black belt, and you’re more concerned about your skill progress than your rank. You’re ready to dedicate yourself to a martial art for many years.
- You’re not the world’s greatest athlete, maybe not an athlete at all. You’re in OK shape. You’re looking for a martial art that doesn’t require the greatest strength or flexibility to be effective. And you’re hoping the martial art will help you get more flexible and in better shape…but at your own, moderate pace. And, if you are a super athlete, you want to train with people who can take you to your next level.
- It’s about the progress, and mastery as process, not a destination. You thrive in lifelong learning environment.
- You like and understand the need for proof. And you’d like to develop the calm, quiet confidence that comes with knowing what you’re capable of…with no need to prove it to anyone else…unless you have to.
- You prefer harmonious conflict resolution strategies. While still standing strong for what you believe, you like to leave the other person with their dignity.